EDITORIAL: We call older men who have sex with younger women a more appealing, almost romantic term of sugar daddy while we call older women who have sex with younger men a derogatory term; cougar.
The real definition of a cougar is a large powerful tawny-brown cat – also called catamount, mountain lion, panther, or puma. A puma is a natural born prowler that waits to pounce on its unsuspecting prey. It is is a predator. That we use the same word as slang for women who seek or find sex from younger men shows how we demonise women – and praise men – for seeking sexual pleasure from younger sex mates.
By calling older male sex seekers a more palatable name sugar daddy, we sublimely present them as sweet, old men out to give sweet sex.
Sex between two consenting adults is beautiful and must invite no scrutiny from people that are not involved. Except it does when it’s an older woman having it with a younger man.
We’ve been here before, advocating for women as deserving equal dignity and fair criticism but we are still a long way to go.
The flimsy defence that women also call each other names does not hold water because women are also products of the same masochist society which teaches them biased standards and behaviours expected of women.
We see each other through the eyes of misogyny.
However, in this day and age, we should afford each other a fair, equal chance to live our lives as we please despite our gender. It’s the only sensible thing to do.